"You listen differently."
                                                                                                          

Our group had been discussing stories of conflicts at theological schools.  After analyzing what had happened, especially in stories where destructive conflicts had been transformed into positive growth experiences, we turned our attention to the kinds of knowledge, character and skills our graduates would need in order to promote such transformation in the future.

We immediately identified the need to listen carefully to what others say.  But then we began to unpack what it means to "listen carefully."  Professor La Kong said, "You listen differently.  You are always analyzing what you hear."  Professor Mar Bwe added, "Teach us how to do that.  How can we learn to hear 'the message behind the message'?"

Talk about golden moments in facilitation!  Somebody, please tell Cathy.  Her long years of patient work are paying off!

I had prayed for--and invited you to join me in praying for--"ears to hear."  For at least part of the workshop on integrating Peace Studies into existing curriculum, sponsored by the Peace Studies Center of the Myanmar Institute of Theology, those prayers were wonderfully well answered.  The facilitator for the workshop was able to pick up on what was being said (despite--or perhaps due to!--working through an interpreter) and to model what it means to hear "the message behind the message."

In response to their questions, I first talked about standard exercises we can do to develop listening skills... and then I told the truth.  I told several stories about communication break-downs large and small, failures that had taught me to listen for more than what is on the surface.  Failure and grace... error, forgiveness and reconciliation... and, of course, failure without reconciliation... rupture and reflection....  By the grace of God, we can learn from our mistakes.  I still "get it wrong" with some frequency.  We all do.  But, there are times when all that learning pays off.

It seems like the Peace Studies Center workshop this week was one of those times.  Thanks be to God!  I am also deeply grateful that Rev. Dr. Maung Maung Yin, Director of the Peace Studies Center, invited me to join this magnificent group of sisters and brothers for a few days of learning together.  Finally, thanks for your prayers on our behalf.  God answered!

Blessings,

Stan, still listening in Yangon